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William Daniel's avatar

I don't know how to say it... I'm continually feeling disappointed and betrayed by the party to which I previously gave my voluntary service..

The solution to these problems should not lie with more and more centralised control. The mobile telephone ban in schools being a good example. The result of this is that schools as institutions are weakened and reduced in every one's eyes. The minister gets a golden tick; but the problem isn't really resolved.

We need the independent institutions in society to be strengthened, not degraded. Banning things by more and more centralised control doesn't help to build up the society, it degrades our ability to find meaningful interactions and connections, by making everyone more atomized and less trustful of others.

If social media use by young people is the problem, then it requires social solutions, not political solutions. The schools should become more focused on creating opportunities for meaningful interactions, activities, clubs, sports - they need to become more organised at this, they need to create opportunities that are more interesting for the young people, more interesting and interactive than chatting via mobile. The only way to resolve this problem is to create alternatives that are more interesting. The time for complete laissez faire is gone, we need to be innovative to create experiences that are more attractive for the youth of today.

And this can apply equally to those that have a tendency to indulge in bullying behaviour via social media - they only do it because of their insecurities, because they don't know how to form genuine meaningful human interactions.....

Each person needs to find their own place in life, we have to do that from the grass roots up - not via centralised control. And for young people, they're still learning, we have to show them how to keep a good perspective on things. Therefore the colleges need to make more effort in this area.... But central government standing over the top of the colleges doesn't improve their status and ability to educate...

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Aroha's avatar

I'm going to really stick my neck out here. I was, for a long time, a psychotherapist in private practice and a perennial problem for many parents was struggling with how to set boundaries for their teenagers and survive the consequent toxic fallout. Some gave up the struggle and gave in to their offspring's demands and others managed to hold the line. The former mostly could not tolerate the emotional discomfort of not being "friends" with their teenagers, in spite of an intellectual understanding that their job was to be a parent first and with a bit of luck, a friend second. You can't be both, except very rarely, and this is what's missing in a lot of the discussion. I'm about to head for my bomb shelter now.

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